stock photoDear Haikusue:

My boyfriend and I met when I was living in SF, and he was living in LA.  After 3 months he decided to move north to 'make it work' with me, and to find a better job. Since he didn't have anything lined up I let him move in with me until he got settled.  Well, its three years later, he has been employed only on a sporatic basis, and has made it clear that if I insist he find a place of his own, we are over as a couple.  Although we fight a lot, and I really want him to move out, I don't really want to break up. How do I convince him that we will be happier living separately but still being a couple?

Signed,

Needing space in the inner mission

Dear Needing:

My dear it is you,

the one that needs convincing,

cut the bad fish loose